What happens to our parents when we grow up and they come for a visit:
They seem to fall into 1 of 3, possibly 4, categories…they become either a) “Guests only” – doing nothing, and expecting to be waited on hand and foot, b) Overly demanding and taking charge – parenting your kids, telling you in many ways how you do it all wrong and that their way is better, c) Completely clueless and “dumbing down”, or d) If you’re lucky, your parents know just how to handle being in your home with your children and they doing almost everything right!!
This theory developed after a meeting with my therapist. And of course, there is no research and no data to back this all up. It’s just me exploring my own experiences. The thing is, there are reasons why parents might fall into these various roles. And further exploration is something worth doing, probably for all of us! And I imagine there may even be more “types” of parents out there.
I’d love to hear what you have to add!